One Bad Mother

Biz and Theresa wonder if there's any benefit to all the fighting going on between our kids besides thinning out the herd. One part of our brain knows to let them learn to work it out, unless it gets violent, but the other part of our brain finds it hard not to step in when we get fed up listening to it. Plus, Biz has a dream and Theresa practices detachment parenting. We talk to author, therapist and mom Colleen O’Grady about raising teen daughters, but our conversation is relevant to so many stages of parenting, it is absolutely something for everyone -- not just parents of teenage girls!

Colleen O'Grady
Website: http://colleenogrady.com/
Twitter: @poweryourparent

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Care.com and Harry's. Care.com is the easy and reliable way to find care for everyone in the family — when and where you need it. To save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership, visit http://www.care.com/badmother when you subscribe! One Bad Mother is also supported in part by Harry's. To get your Free Trial set – including a razor handle, 5-blade cartridge, and shave gel – go to http://www.harrys.com/badmother right now!

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Show Music

Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://www.awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://www.adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm20episode2020620-205_23_172C205.4220PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:22am PDT

Biz and Theresa wonder if we're putting too much or too little weight on our kids' actual ages. Every time our older kids reach a new age, it seems younger than we imagined it would be, and our younger kids -- no matter how old they get -- always seem little compared to our big kids. When we set limits and expectations based on our kids' ages, it always somehow feels totally arbitrary! Plus, Biz acts like she cares, Theresa solves the formula, and we talk to actresses and moms Kimmy Gatewood and Rebecca Johnson about Glow, the new Netflix series about lady wrestlers.

Follow Kimmy! @KimmyGatewood
Follow Rebecca! @HelloRebekka

Glow on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/80114988

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Boll and Branch and thredUP. Go to http://www.bollandbranch.com and you’ll get $50 off your first set of sheets plus free shipping in the U.S. when you use the promo code BADMOTHER. One Bad Mother is also supported in part by thredUP, the world’s largest online thrift store. Right now, go to http://www.thredUP.com/badmother to get an extra 40% off your first order.

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Show Music

Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://www.awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://www.adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm20episode20205.520-205_17_172C207.3520AM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:52pm PDT

In honor of Mother’s Day, Biz and Theresa wonder whether we have inadvertently allowed ourselves to become doormats! When we hear our partners tell our kids, "Don't talk to your mother that way," why are we surprised? It's nice to know someone has our backs, but...maybe we should also have our own backs! How do we practice patience while also standing up to our kids when they cross the line? How do we stand up to ourselves when we treat ourselves badly? Plus, Biz spends money on garbage and Theresa would like to stop having kids now!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are theSkimm and Care.com. theSkimm serves up the news right when you need it, in one simple email, every single morning, with style and no B.S. - it’s fun, informative, and it’s FREE. Sign up right now for theSkimm, and enter for your chance to win a $250 Visa gift card at theSkimm.com/badmother. One Bad Mother is also supported in part by Care.com, the easy and reliable way to find care for everyone in the family — when and where you need it. To save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership, visit care.com/badmother when you subscribe!

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Show Music

Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://www.awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://www.adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm20episode20204.120-205_11_172C2011.4020A.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:34pm PDT

Biz and Theresa are beginning to think our kids are trying to tell use something…like, to shut up. Perhaps the face grabbing, mouth covering and screaming, “No talking, Mama!” is a clue. Is expecting our children to not interrupt reasonable right now or should we be focusing more on the long game? Plus, Biz adjusts her attitude, there is a baby on Theresa’s plane, and Heather MacLean joins to talk about her new YA book, Toward a Secret Sky and her experiences as a mom with a child with Tourette's.

Heather’s Website: http://www.heather-maclean.com
Toward A Secret Sky: http://amzn.to/2p2ce0h
Twitter: @HeatherMaclean

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Blue Apron and MVMT Watches. For less than $10 per person per meal, Blue Apron delivers seasonal recipes along with pre-portioned ingredients to make delicious, home-cooked meals. Check out this week’s menu and get your first three meals free — with free shipping — by going to http://www.blueapron.com/badmother. MVMT Watches was founded on the belief that style shouldn’t break the bank. Get 15% off today — with free shipping and free returns — by going to http://www.mvmtwatches.com/mother.

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Show Music

Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://www.awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://www.adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm20episode2020320-205_3_172C208.4020PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:07pm PDT

Biz and Theresa talk about how it feels when our kids get in trouble at school. Everyone is definitely thinking we're doing a bad job as parents, right? Plus, life finds a way for Biz, Theresa tells us how it's going with three, and we talk with comedian Joe Sib about his parenting podcast and his new comedy album Nowhere Near The Top.

Twitter: @JoeSib
Nowhere Near The Top album: https://www.nowherenearthetop.com
Rad Parenting Podcast: http://rad-parenting.com

Tickets for One Bad Mother Live at the Independent in San Francisco THIS SATURDAY, April 29th: https://www.ticketfly.com/purchase/event/1453303

You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning At Parenting! is now available! You can get it at Amazon or Barnes and Noble or Books-A-Million or your local indie book store!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsor this week is StoryWorth. StoryWorth makes it easy and fun for your loved ones to share their stories, with weekly emailed story prompts - questions you’ve never thought to ask. For $20 off, visit http://www.storyworth.com/badmother when you subscribe!

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Show Music

Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://www.awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://www.adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm20episode2020220-204_26_172C207.5320PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:48pm PDT

Every family has its own way of doing things and, now that our kids are old enough to compare our homes to their friends', suddenly there's a whole list of ways in which we, our kids' parents, ARE MONSTERS. Plus, Biz paves the way for weekend fun and Theresa visits a real forest. And we talk with writer Nefertiti Austin about her experience adopting children as a single woman of color.
 
In reference to our conversation with Nefertiti, here are some book recommendations from Gwen Glazer of the New York Public Library. These books are for children ages 10+, featuring protagonists who are people of color. Note these are categorized by gender -- the first listed are books featuring boy/male leads and below that are books featuring girl/female leads. As with any book, parents should read first to make sure it is suitable for your child. Thank you, Gwen!
 
Featuring boy/male leads:
 
As Brave as You by Jason Reynolds (Nefertiti after the show found this as well through her local librarian) 
The Crossover and Booked by Kwame Alexander (these might skew older​ -- for a mature 10yo only​) 
The Cruisers series by Walter Dean Myers​
Kinda Like Brothers by Coe Booth​
Bud, Not Buddy by Christopher Paul Curtis​
 
Featuring girl/female leads:
 
One Crazy Summer by Rita Williams-Garcia 
Flygirl by Sherri L. Smit 
Bayou Magic by Jewell Parker Rhodes 
The Jumbies series by Tracy Baptiste 
The Mighty Miss Malone by Christopher Paul Curtis  
Zora and Me by Victoria Bond
 
Nefertiti Austin:

http://muthamagazine.com/author/nefertiti-austin/
http://www.essence.com/authors/nefertiti-austin

Tickets for One Bad Mother Live at the Independent in San Francisco April 29th: https://www.ticketfly.com/purchase/event/1453303

You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning At Parenting! is available now! You can get it at Amazon or Barnes and Noble or Books-A-Million or your local indie book store!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Blue Apron and Care.com. You can try Blue Apron and get your first three meals free with free shipping by visiting BlueApron.com/badmother. And to save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership, and receive a $15 credit that you can use toward paying your caregiver when you use Care.com’s convenient payment platform, visit http://www.care.com/badmother when you subscribe.

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Show Music

Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://www.awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://www.adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm20episode2020120-204_18_172C209.0320PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:34pm PDT

This week on One Bad Mother, Biz and Theresa ponder the stereotype of mothers….not the ethereal, magical vessel image…its the hunched, broken, shell of a person image. Is it avoidable? Is it too late? Or is there some place in between the deep end and the impossible vision of self put upon perfection? We hope that place has snacks. Plus Biz lives her parenting dream, Theresa gives us a window into her world and we talk to Bryn Huntpalmer of the podcast The Birth Hour.

Website: http://thebirthhour.com
Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/brynhuntpalmer

Tickets for One Bad Mother Live at the Independent in San Francisco April 29th: https://www.ticketfly.com/purchase/event/1453303

Preorder the One Bad Mother book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning At Parenting! You can get it at Amazon or Barnes and Noble or Books-A-Million or your local indie book store!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Jet and Care.com. For $10 off your first 3 orders of $35 or more, visit jet.com and enter promo code "badmother" at checkout! And to save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership, and receive a $15 credit that you can use toward paying your caregiver when you use Care.com’s convenient payment platform, visit http://www.care.com/badmother when you subscribe.

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Show Music

Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://www.awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://www.adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm20episode20200.120-204_12_172C207.3220PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:33am PDT

This week on One Bad Mother, Biz and Theresa wonder why stepping foot into elementary school can churn up our own personal anxiety about making friends as adults with other parents. Is it all in our minds or should we just hang out behind the cafeteria and start smoking? Plus Biz gives up the bottle, Theresa takes up the bottle and Kiera Butler, a senior editor at Mother Jones joins to talk about the silence surrounding birth related injuries.

The Mother Jones Piece: http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2017/01/childbirth-injuries-prolapse-cesarean-section-natural-childbirth

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Lyft and Blue Apron. Go to http://www.lyft.com/badmother today and you’ll get a $500 new driver bonus after you complete 100 rides within 30 days. And check out this week's Blue Apron menu and get your first 3 meals free, with free shipping, by going to http://www.blueapron.com/badmother.

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Show Music

Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://www.awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://www.adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm20episode2019920-204_4_172C208.1720PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:26pm PDT

This week on One Bad Mother, in honor of the #MaxFunDrive, Theresa is BACK, with Baby Curtis, and we talk about the miracle of childbirth. The third times the charm! Plus we are joined by Jancee Dunn, to talk about her new book which works through the issues many couples have after a baby shows up in their life. Turns out, there maybe should have been some pre-baby talk about how stuff was going to work. Weird. Last but not least, we wrap up the #MaxFunDrive and want to say thank you for all of your support!

Jancee Dunn
http://www.janceedunn.net
Twitter: @JanceeDunn
How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids: http://amzn.to/2nidOFR

Plus it is #MaxFunDrive! This is the best time to support One Bad Mother by becoming a new or upgrading member of Maximum Fun! We can’t make this show without you. Thank you.

Tickets for One Bad Mother Live at the Independent in San Francisco April 29th: https://www.ticketfly.com/purchase/event/1453303

Preorder the One Bad Mother book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning At Parenting! You can get it at Amazon or Barnes and Noble or Books-A-Million or your local indie book store!

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Show Music

Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://www.awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://www.adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm20episode2019820Maxfundrive20220-203_29_172C204.5120PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 5:15pm PDT

This week on One Bad Mother, in honor MaxFunDrive, Biz travels to the past to talk to to still pregnant Theresa about how much they should care about how their kid’s express themselves through their clothes. The answer turns out to be “not a lot” but that doesn’t mean it wasn’t a bumpy road to get there and acceptance that the road will go on forever….with more bumps. Plus Corin Tucker joins us to talk about “mom cool,” feminism post kids and the importance of supporting each other.

Plus it is #MaxFunDrive! This is the best time to support One Bad Mother by becoming a new or upgrading member of Maximum Fun! We can’t make this show without you. Thank you.

Corin Tucker
Twitter: @corintuckerband
Slater Kinney: http://www.sleater-kinney.com
The Corin Tucker Band: http://www.killrockstars.com/artists/the-corin-tucker-band

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Show Music

Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://www.awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://www.adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)

Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm20episode2019720Maxfundrive20120-203_20_172C209.5520PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:41pm PDT