One Bad Mother

Biz and Theresa are back together again and wonder why we feel like vending machines. Maybe it's because we spend all day being the giver and taker-away of all good things. A child will relentlessly ask for stuff and we have to say "no" so many times a day, then occasionally we say "yes" because we're tired of saying "no!" Then saying "yes" opens many new terrible doors (When! Now? Now? Now?) and the "yes" just feeds this fire. It perpetuates the idea that we are the providers and they should keep constantly asking for things because sometimes we'll say "yes." And now the machine has eaten my dollar! GIVE ME MY NUTTER BUTTERS! Plus Biz shares some science, Theresa is all signed up for camp and we welcome back Lisa Kenney of Gender Spectrum to talk about the importance of incorporating gender inclusive materials into schools’ existing puberty and health education curricula.

To learn more about Gender Spectrum, go to genderspectrum.org. You can find their Principles for Gender-Inclusive Puberty and Health Education online at genderspectrum.org/blog/gender-inclusive-puberty-and-health-education. Listen to our previous interview with Lisa Kenney on Episode 188. Follow Gender Spectrum on Twitter @GenderSpectrum and on Instagram at gender_spectrum.

We are coming to Boston!! We will be at CitySpace for a live show on Saturday, September 14th. You can purchase your tickets at: https://thewilbur.com/wbur-cityspace/artist/one-bad-mother/ or at onebadmotherpodcast.com/tour.
We will also be doing a book signing after the show. You can purchase your books at the show or pre-purchase through the ticket link and pick your books up at the show!

Check out Theresa's new book! It Feels Good To Be Yourself is available now wherever books are sold

Check out our book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Michelin and PANDA and Casper. So next time when you’re looking for new tires for the family car, consider Michelin Premier® All Season tires. Michelin, performance EVERY time! Check out the Princeton and NYU Discoveries in Action lab (or PANDA) at DiscoveriesInAction.org and sign up! Get $50 toward select mattresses by visiting Casper.com/badmother and using badmother at checkout. Terms and conditions apply.

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Show Music
Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm_episode_311_-_7_9_19_8.47_PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:33am PDT

Biz and Theresa ponder the hardest question we have faced yet, “So, you are stranded on a desert island and you can only bring things your kids like. What do you bring?” Who will prove the greater survivor!? Plus Biz is probably having a wonderful time, Theresa can’t even have "me" time at 4am and we talk to Meenal Patel about her children’s book Priya Dreams of Marigolds and Masala.

Follow Meenal on her website at MeenalPatelStudio.com and on Instagram at instagram.com/meenal_land. Her book Priya Dreams of Marigolds and Masala is available on Etsyor you can request it from your local book store.

Check out Theresa's new book! It Feels Good To Be Yourself is available now wherever books are sold

Check out our book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Harper Wilde and Lola. Go to Harperwilde.com/badmother and use promo code BADMOTHER to get 15% off your first purchase. For 40% off all subscriptions, visit Mylola.com and enter badmother40 when you subscribe!

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Show Music
Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm_episode_310_-_6_25_19_7.21_PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:16pm PDT

Biz and Theresa are packing our bags for Camp Mom! Camp Mom…an exciting opportunity to save money and spend quality time with your children! It's as easy as staying up after the kids go to bed and outlining a syllabus of science, art, and movement activities that children of any age and any interest level will totally be into. Don’t forget meals! Be it Mom, Dad, a sitter, a grandparent or the dog next door, the counselor is in and doesn’t want talking after lights out. Plus Biz gets parenting tips and Theresa has a reminder.

Check out our book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Mathnasium and Michelin. Avoid the “Summer Slide” by contacting Mathnasium today! Go to Mathnasium.com/obm or call 855-354-MATH. Next time when you’re looking for new tires for the family car, consider Michelin. Michelin, performance EVERY time!

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Show Music
Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm_episode_309_-_6_17_19_6.50_PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:28am PDT

Biz and Theresa explore the pros and cons of our kids sharing good news with each other. “I know you got a goody bag at the party but how about you don’t tell your brother?” “I am so proud of you for your hard work on your project. You deserved the prize you got. Don’t tell your brother!” How do we find the balance of celebrating good news with our kids while avoiding the jealousy and greed that often follow? Plus Biz tells it like it is, Theresa isn’t going to pack a snack and we talk to trans and queer artist Noah Grigni, illustrator of Theresa’s new book It Feels Good To Be Yourself.

Find out more from Noah on Instagram at ngrigni or on their website at Noahgrigni.comIt Feels Good to Be Yourself is available now wherever you buy books.

Check out our book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Care.com and Michelin. To save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership, visit Care.com/mother when you subscribe. Next time you are looking for new tires for the family car, consider Michelin. Michelin, performance EVERY time!

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Show Music
Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm_episode_308_-_6_4_19_8.58_PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:22pm PDT

Summer. It's here! This week let's stop worrying about how to “do” summer with kids of all ages and instead kick back in the warming glow of listener Geniuses, Failures and Rants! You are all doing a great job!

Check out our book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Mathnasium and The Floor is Lava from Simon and Schuster. Avoid the “Summer Slide” – contact Mathnasium today! Go to Mathnasium.com/OBM or call 855-354-MATH. Pick up The Floor is Lava by Ivan Brett today or order online at simonandschuster.com/books/The-Floor-Is-Lava/Ivan-Brett/9781982116187.

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Show Music
Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm_episode_307_-_5_29_19_12.19_PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:18am PDT

Biz and Theresa revisit board games and card games and delve into the ethical questions and lessons that arise. Do I let my kid win? If they realize they made a mistake, do I let them have a “do over” during the game? Do I teach one child to let another child win? There isn’t always an easy answer…it’s just how the game is played. (Boom!) Plus Biz can see Katy Belle is about done, Theresa’s village gets a new job and we talk to Dana B. Myers about reigniting some intimacy in our lives.

Find more from Dana on her website Danabmyers.com and follow her on Twitter @DanaBMyers and on Instagram at danamyersxoxo. Her book The Mommy Mojo Makeover: 28 Tools to Reclaim Yourself and Reignite your Relationship is out now.

Check out our book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Mathnasium and Harper Wilde. to find out more about Mathnasium, go to Mathnasium.com or call 855-354-MATH. Go to Harperwilde.com/ badmother and use promo code BADMOTHER to get 15% off your first purchase.

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Show Music
Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm_episode_306.1_-_5_23_19_10.32_AM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:32pm PDT

Biz and Theresa wonder if we can still claim Superbrain or if our brains are just broken now from all the continuous input. Is it a “natural” result to feel like we are failing at many things because our brains are learning so many new things? Plus, Biz has nothing to talk about and Theresa has a mother’s day report.

Check out our book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsor this week is Pact. Go to Wearpact.com and use code onebadmother to get 20% off your first purchase

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Show Music
Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm_episode_305_-_5_14_19_8.50_PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:28pm PDT

Biz and Theresa wonder if it’s “cool” to be drawn on by our kids. Do we set limits or are we totally broken and therefore willing to have a portrait of the cat drawn in sharpie on our faces if it means 10 minutes of silence? Plus Biz feels like an idiot, Theresa is sooooooo relaxed and we welcome back Emily Oster to talk about her new book Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool.

Follow Emily Oster on Twitter @ProfEmilyOster and on Instagram at profemilyoster Her new book Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool is out now.

Check out our book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Casper and Pact. Get $50 toward select mattresses by visiting Casper.com/badmother and using code badmother at checkout. To get 20% off your first purchase, go to Wearpact.com and use code onebadmother.

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Show Music
Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm_episode_304_-_5_8_19_11.08_AM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:35am PDT

Biz and Theresa wonder if we should stand up for our partners when our kids show a preference for us. “I don’t want Papa to take me!” “I love Mama more, it's just a fact.” We get that this is developmental in many ways but maybe, on those dark days, our resentment might cloud our response. “Well, of course they love me more, I’m president of everything!” Oops. Maybe we are the jerk. Plus Biz gets scarred for life, Theresa does not know when to hold ‘em, and we welcome back graphic novelist Lucy Knisley to talk about her new graphic memoir Kid Gloves: Nine Months of Careful Chaos.

Listen to Lucy's previous OBM appearance on episode 255.

Follow Lucy on Instagram at lucyknisley and on Twitter @LucyKnisley and on her website at Lucyknisley.com. Her graphic memoir Kid Gloves is available now.

We are participating in a sock drive for people in the MacArthur Park area that don't have homes. If you want to join us, please send new socks (men's or women's) by May 24th to this address:

Sock Drive, Maximum Fun
2404 Wilshire Blvd. #9A
Los Angeles, CA 90057

Find out more at http://maximumfun.org/socks

Pin Sale: From 4/29/2019 to 5/10/2019 all $10-and-up members will be able to buy enamel pins from the 2019 MaxFunDrive. If you are a $10-and-up member, check you inbox for instructions on how to join the sale.

Check out our book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Care.com and Pact. To save 30% off a Care.com Premium membership, visit Care.com/mother when you subscribe! Visit Wearpact.com and use code onebadmother to get 20% off your first purchase.

Share your genius and fail moments! Call 206-350-9485
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You can suggest a topic or a guest for an upcoming show by sending an email to onebadmother@maximumfun.org.

Show Music
Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm_episode_303_-_5_1_19_11.11_AM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:42am PDT

Biz and Theresa pat ourselves on the back for past parenting decisions only to realize that now, we’re not sure those choices were right. “They are just clothes. I won’t be mad if you play in them and they get dirty.” Fast forward a month….(internal monologue) “Am I ok with her wearing THAT while playing in mud?” Do we speak up or cram it down and seethe? Plus Biz ate that bunny, Theresa isn’t nice about Easter and we talk to Zibby Owens of the popular podcast, "Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books."

Connect with Zibby on her website at Zibbyowens.com, on Facebook at Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books with Zibby Owens, on Instagram at zibbyowens, and on Twitter @zibbyowens. You can listen to her podcast Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books wherever you get your podcasts.

Check out our book! You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting!

Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsor this week is Pact. To get 20% off your first purchase, go to wearpact.com and use code onebadmother.

Share your genius and fail moments! Call 206-350-9485
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Subscribe to One Bad Mother in iTunes
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You can suggest a topic or a guest for an upcoming show by sending an email to onebadmother@maximumfun.org.

Show Music
Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes)
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes)
Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Direct download: obm_episode_302_-_4_24_19_1.31_PM.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:16am PDT